It goes like this. I've been exclusively attracted (at least sexually) toward males all my life. When I met my future wife, she was amazing and I liked her a lot. But I never had that superficial infatuation with her, as I've never had that for a girl. As I got to know her, I started to develop some feelings of attraction to her. This was exactly the opposite of what happened with guys. The closer I became to guys, the more they became friends rather than objects of my attraction. I suspect that most straight guys have to deal with initial attraction and the developing relationship at the same time, and that this plays a major role in that "falling-out-of-love" thing that sometimes happens. Since I didn't have that same set of conditions, my relationship with my wife didn't have the same stages of development. I consider my relationship with my wife to be very strong; it was strong from the beginning, and continues strong to this day.
Of course, I only really know what happened in my own case, and one data point is hardly good evidence for such conclusions. But this much I know. I dearly and sincerely love my wife, and wouldn't give her up for the world. And I feel that my gay orientation actually makes that stronger.
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